- Chinese New Year is a two-day public holiday in Singapore, although it’s actually celebrated for 15 days. During this time it’s common to visit family and friends. In other countries, the public holiday is longer. Eight days in China and three days in Taiwan, Vietnam, Hong Kong and Macau.
- To wish someone a Happy New Year, you can use the traditional expression “Gong Xi Fa Cai” which means, “Wishing you a prosperous New Year”.
- If you’re invited to a Chinese New Year celebration, don’t wear white. White is associated with death.
- At a New Year meal, you may get to participate in the fun Singaporean tradition of tossing the Yu Sheng. Yu Sheng is a beautifully composed salad of raw fish, vegetables and sauces. Guests use their chopsticks to toss the salad into the air while yelling good wishes for the New Year. Remember that the higher you toss, the more prosperous your year will be.
- The word for Mandarin orange in Cantonese sounds like the word for gold, so the giving and receiving of these oranges has become a New Year tradition. If you were to visit a friend for the New Year, you should bring 2 oranges in a red gift bag. They would then give you 2 oranges in return.
- Your hosts will be delighted if you arrive at their celebration with ‘hong bao’ or red packets for their children. Whatever amount you decide to give, make sure it’s in crisp, new bills and that neither the number of bills nor the amount of dollars contains the number ‘4’ as this is an unlucky number.
- Many people also give ‘hong bao’, as we might give Christmas bonuses, to service people who they deal with on a regular basis. Don’t be surprised if the recipient doesn’t immediately open your red packet. It’s considered bad manners to open a gift in front of the giver.
- This is the only time of the year when some shops in Singapore close. If you were surprised to find most shops and restaurants open on Christmas day, Chinese New Year is slightly different. Small shops, hawker stalls and family-owned businesses are likely to be closed. Big restaurant chains and malls, as well as tourist attractions, will be open as usual.
It’s time for a new job, a new challenge. As you conduct your daily scan of the local job postings a certain job title with an organisation you’ve been monitoring jumps out at you. Could this finally be the opportunity you’ve been waiting for? You eagerly read the details, mentally checking off the job expectations in your mind. But as you reach the job requirements section, your heart sinks. You can strongly deliver 6 of the 10 requirements, but the remaining 4 you would not count among your strengths.
Do you apply? Or wait for the next opportunity, hoping there will be something that fits your exact skill set soon?
Research shows the majority of women only apply for jobs when they meet 100% of the criteria, whereas most men apply when they meet just 60%. (Source: LinkedIn, Gender Insights Report: How women find jobs differently) How many job interviews are women missing out on?
How about a promotion opportunity at work? Do you believe in yourself and your abilities enough to apply, even if you don’t fit all of the criteria? Or again, wait for that perfect fit?
An extremely successful APAC Director shared her thoughts at the Developing Global Leaders Women in Leadership Program, and her insight was fascinating. Several years ago she had to be coaxed by her superiors to even apply for an internal promotion believing she did not fit all of the criteria. After the interview process, she found out she did not get the job only because she did not have enough allies or sponsors.
Meanwhile, her male counterpart, who had significantly less experience, had been broadcasting his lofty ambitions and lobbying sponsors to support his candidacy for promotion for over 12 months.
It is not men’s fault if they are going after a promotion or new job – good on them! We can all take actions to make sure we make the most of the opportunities out there.
WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY
Building a network of mentors and sponsors is critical to career advancement and something that must be nurtured over time, not only when you are seeking promotion or referrals. Focus on mutually beneficial relationships. They are the most enduring and ultimately rewarding.
Have clarity when it comes to your career goals. When a new job or promotion comes along, gut instinct will always play a part, but you can also refer back to those goals to help with your decision.
Remember, there is never a perfect job for anyone, and we are all able to adapt and learn along the way. Why wait for 10 out of 10? Isn’t the point of a new job to learn, be inspired, challenged and enthused?
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Deep down you know you are good at your job, but does one small mistake or mishap have you feeling like a complete failure? If so, there is a very good chance you are suffering from imposter syndrome. The psychological phenomenon known as imposter syndrome is the belief that you’re wholly inadequate and incompetent, despite hard evidence proving otherwise.
The line between self-awareness and self-loathing is a narrow one. With pressure to succeed and frequent comparison with others, it’s not surprising that many of us feel undeserving or unworthy of recognition.
Imposter syndrome is more common that you might think. Research from 2011 suggests approximately 70% of people will experience at least one episode of imposter syndrome in their lives. Some of the world’s most successful and highly regarded individuals have confessed to feeling like frauds in light of their own achievements.
“There are still days when I wake up feeling like a fraud, not sure I should be where I am.”
-Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook CEO & Author of Lean In
“I had enormous self-image problems and very low self-esteem, which I hid behind obsessive writing and performing. … And I was driven to get through life very quickly… feeling so utterly inadequate. I thought the work was the only thing of value.”
-David Bowie, English singer-songwriter
“I have written 11 books, but each time I think, “Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.”
-Maya Angelou, American Author
Individuals suffering from imposter syndrome generally fall into one of five categories. Do you recognize yourself in any of these categories? Or perhaps you’ve seen some of these traits in your co-workers. The good news is there are ways address these traits and give yourself and your colleagues the support you all deserve. Awareness and empathy for self and others will go a long way in combatting imposter syndrome.
1. The Perfectionist
Perfectionists set ridiculously high standards for themselves and feel like failures when they don’t reach them. Setting excessively high standards is a no-win situation. If they’re not achieved, it confirms their fears of not being good enough. If they are, they believe they didn’t set the bar high enough.
Is this me?
- Have you ever been accused of being a micro-manager or control freak?
- Do you have difficulty delegating? Even when you’re able to do so, do you feel frustrated and disappointed in the results?
- When you miss the mark, do you accuse yourself of not being cut out for your job and stew on it for days?
- If you receive praise and recognition for something you’ve achieved, do you tend to discount it?
What can I do about it?
- We can all strive to be better, but it is essential to remember that if all you do is chase perfection, you miss out on other important things in life.
- Push yourself to act before you’re ready
- Learn to accept mistakes/setbacks as a natural part of the process. Learn from them.
- Force yourself to own and celebrate achievements. Keep a praise journal. Write down any positive feedback you’ve received from colleagues or clients, awards/recommendations. Read it regularly.
- Remember: a done something is better than a perfect nothing.
2. The Superhero
Superheroes feel like they have not truly earned their title so work harder and longer than those around them to prove their worth. They are workaholics, addicted to the validation that comes from working, not to the work itself. They feel the need to succeed in all aspects of life—at work, as parents, as partners—and may feel stressed when they are not accomplishing something.
Is this me?
- Do you stay later at the office than the rest of your team, even after you have completed that day’s necessary work?
- Are you stressed when you’re not working?
- Have you given up hobbies and outside interests?
- Do you feel like you haven’t truly earned your title, so you feel pressed to work harder and longer than those around you?
What can I do about it?
- Learn to take constructive criticism seriously, not personally.
- Train yourself to veer away from external praise and validation and let your own sense of pride shine through.
- Document those accomplishments that you feel particularly proud of and identify what it was about that accomplishment that made YOU most proud. Set that as your own bar for success and achievement.
- Know your limits and draw your boundaries. Work on finding yourself and building your confidence.
3. The Natural Genius
Similar to Perfectionists, Natural Geniuses have impossibly high standards. However, they also expect to get everything right on the first try. They are typically able to master a new skill easily, feeling ashamed when they cannot. They judge success based on their abilities, not their efforts. If they have to work hard at something, they assume they must be bad at it.
Is this me?
- Are you used to excelling without much effort?
- Do you have a track record of getting top marks in everything you do?
- Were you told frequently as a child that you were the “smart one” in your family? Or that you were “gifted” at school or in the sports arena?
- Do you dislike the idea of having a mentor? Prefer to handle things on your own?
What can I do about it?
- Accept that you’re human. And your colleagues are human too. They’re not great at everything either. Most things cannot be accomplished without hard work and effort.
- Rather than beating yourself up when you don’t reach your impossibly high standards, identify specific, changeable behaviours that you can improve over time.Askyourself, what did I learn from this experience? Is this knowledge or a skill I can develop for the future or an area where I can collaborate with others who do?
4. The Individualist
Individualists feel the need to accomplish things on their own and refuse help from others so they can prove their worth.
Is this me?
- Do you prefer working alone?
- “I don’t need anyone’s help.”
- Do you frame requests in terms of the requirements of the project, rather than your needs as a person?
- If you do receive help, do you see this as a sign of failure or weakness?
- Is constructive feedback particularly hard to accept?
What can I do about it?
- It’s OK to be independent, but not to the extent that you refuse help to the detriment of the team or project.
- Build a support network. The worst thing that people with imposter syndrome can do is to isolate themselves. Remember that not everything can be accomplished alone. Ask a senior colleague for guidance and mentoring on navigating intimidating environments.
- Learn to accept that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you know your limits and have room for growth.
5. The Expert
Experts fear being exposed as inexperienced and unknowledgeable. They will not feel satisfied when finishing a task until they feel that they know everything about the subject. They continuously hunt for new information, which prevents them from completing tasks and projects.
Is this me?
- Are you hesitant to speak up in meetings because you’re afraid of looking stupid if you don’t already know the answer?
- Do you avoid volunteering for anything outside of your role because you view it as a distraction that could compromise the quality of your other tasks?
- Do you shy away from applying to job postings unless you meet 100% of the hiring criteria?
- Despite being in the same role for years, do you still feel that you don’t know enough?
What can I do about it?
- Push yourself to take on stretch assignments. As the name suggests, these are designed to challenge you and take your experience and knowledge to new places. You’re not expected to know all the answers.
- Mentoring junior colleagues or volunteering can be a great way to discover your inner expert. You will be surprised by how much you actually do know, which will go some way in overcoming your self-doubt.
- Deliberately put yourself in uncomfortable situations that help you grow.
The Imposter Cycle
To stop feeling like an imposter, stop thinking like an imposter! Chronic self-doubt can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s part of something researchers call the “imposter cycle”. Feeling like a fraud at work makes you behave like one, which makes you feel even more like a fraud.
The impact of unchecked imposter syndrome can be far-reaching in the workplace. Recent research by Ghent University discovered that employees with strong imposter syndrome tendencies are more dissatisfied with their jobs, report less organisational citizenship behaviour (defined as volunteering for tasks outside your remit), and express a stronger intention to stay at their job only because the social and psychological cost of leaving is perceived as too high.
Whatever type of imposter syndrome you suffer from, the good news is that you have already done something about it!
The first step for people with symptoms is to educate themselves about the syndrome. Identifying with a type will help when working to manage symptoms.
And why stop there? Pay it forward and share your newfound knowledge with others; at home and at work.
Children taught that they are superior in intelligence, appearance, or talent can develop imposter syndrome when they inevitably struggle to achieve something. To counteract the mistake of praising traits, (“You’re so smart!”), praise effort instead, (“You worked so hard on that”).
It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
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Since 8 is an auspicious number for the Chinese, we present to you eight expat tips for Chinese New Year:
Choosing housing for your expat assignment can be quite challenging since it’s often done on a very short house hunting trip. Doing some prep work before you arrive in Singapore for your house hunting trip can make the whole experience more enjoyable and rewarding.
BE AS OPEN MINDED AS POSSIBLE
This will come in handy, not only for the house hunt, but for your expat experience. Your housing options may be quite different from those at home. Communicate your preferences to your realtor but allow them to use their expertise. You might be surprised at where you end up.
HAVE YOUR PRIORITIES IN ORDER
Take some time to think about and write down those things that you ‘must have’ versus those that are ‘nice to have’. It might be essential for you to have three bedrooms and a nearby park so your son can play football, but while you would love a water view and a dishwasher, those are things you could live without.
USE YOUR LIMIT WISELY
Some companies specify to the realtor how many properties they should show. Since Singaporeans tend to follow instructions, if your company said to show you 8 properties, you may only be shown exactly 8 properties.
LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION
Remember that this is not a forever house. But your housing choice may help define where you shop, where you dine, where you spend your leisure time and, even with whom you socialize. Consider commute times, location of schools, what you like to do for recreation, etc. and include those items on your priority list.
The MRT is not the only public transportation option in Singapore. Don’t limit your housing search just based on MRT access. Expats may discount busses, but they are often the most direct, convenient and comfortable way to get to many destinations. And, they are easy to use with the right smartphone apps! There are also taxis, some neighbourhood shuttle busses, and the option to purchase or lease a car.
CHOOSE YOUR REALTOR WISELY
Unlike in some other countries, in Singapore your relationship with your realtor will likely to continue for the length of your lease. They will be your champion in disputes with your landlord, so choose wisely. Your employer may recommend a realtor, but talk to individual employees or other expats about their experiences. They may have additional suggestions.
PAY ATTENTION TO WHO OWNS THE APARTMENT
If your landlord lives too close or too far away, they may either be too much in your business or unavailable if something needs fixing. If you can, have a conversation with the landlord to see his reactions. Many landlords leave the negotiation to the real estate agent.
The Singapore market, while still hot, has softened somewhat over the last couple of years. The landlord may not want to lower the rent that you’ll be paying, but it may be possible to have other valuable things included in the rent. Consider asking for use of some furniture, money toward utilities, weekly cleaning or air conditioning maintenance.